A few thoughts gathered on the open road, broken into chunks and summarized for your easy reading. Do you have opposing views, additional thoughts, or similar beliefs? Feel free to share them!

Patience

There will always be another person to pass.

Many times we try to rush through life and get as far as we can and as quickly as possible, allthewhile trying to pass everyone who is trying to slow us down or in our way. At times this can be tedious and stressful, and we can’t always be sure what’s around the next corner when we are going too fast.

When you finally pass the person slowing you down, you are always bound to find another along the same path and have to deal with the same scenario. Slow down and enjoy the ride… or choose another path.

Drive

The desire and motivation (or personal drive) to get to your destination is all you need. Back this up with faith and belief that you will succeed and its 100% guaranteed that you’ll make it… or your money back.

When you have an overall objective and goal in mind, small roadblocks and diversions can’t stop you. Weather conditions (or life conditions) that are thrown in your way turn into challenges for you to conquer. The more challenges you face and conquer, the more you get accustomed to succeeding and the more faith you will have in yourself to continue succeeding.

Life is an Adventure

When you are on an adventure, even the horrible and difficult times evolve into great memories and make great stories. A perfect adventure with no bumps or scratches along the way can feel drawl or ordinary… and not very exciting.

When life is thought of as an adventure, you can start treating it as such, and smaller problems tend to dissolve away or add to the humor of life. What is your adventure about? What do you hope to gain from this adventure? What part of the adventure do you enjoy the most and how can you do more of it? What makes this adventure unique and special just for you?

When you can answer these questions, your adventure has begun!

Laugh at Yourself and at Life

Laughing about a situation that would otherwise irritate you or frustrate you is the easiest way to keep negativity at bay.

If hitting your head on the shower door, stubbing a toe, or breaking a shoelace can set your day off wrong or in a negative mood, then this is a good sign you need to start laughing a little more at the idiosyncrasies of life. It is these little things that can really ware on us and get us down. If we can learn to laugh at these little things, find irony and humor in these situations and the “what more can go wrong?” moments, then we’ll have more capacity to handle the larger ones.

Emotions

Sometimes we just aren’t in the mood. Sometimes the chemicals inside our brain are too powerful for our rational self to handle. The best way to deal with this is to recognize the emotions you are having and solve the riddle of why you are having them… if you can’t find a reason, try to release the unwarranted emotion, think positively and be patient knowing your mood will change.

The trick here though, is having these emotions and not passing them onto those around you. If necessary, awareness can help by informing others of how you are feeling and they can accept the situation of how it is instead of trying to fix it… which can make it worse with some people.

On this trip, we had a few off days where we just weren’t in the mood for dealing with certain situations or didn’t have a sense of humor for a few hours. Informing each other of what was going on in our heads instead of letting the other guess seemed to help a lot.

Sleep

Sleep and awareness on the road are crucial and it is more likely for a collision to occur when you don’t have it. The same applies in relationships.

When we are tired, parts of our rational brain are not functioning at full capacity and it allows for our emotional stresses (from the past or from today) to play a toll on us. When mental functions break down, our ability to reason with our emotions start to fail, and we begin to act out upon them.

A few times on the trip, we would get agitated with each other. Friction was in the air, yet when we deduced the situation, we couldn’t pinpoint a logical reason for our frustration to be with each other. It was situational and was based on misunderstanding, lack of communication, and most importantly, exhaustion and our emotions playing with us.

Use the rational part of your brain to control the emotional part, and this is more easily done on a well rested, fully-operational brain.
Sharing

Relationships are grown from the experiences you’ve had together and the memories that are created. Memories provide the most powerful building block of a relationship and the more you have (positive ones), the more powerful the bond can be.

When you go out for a beverage or hang out with friends around a table… what do you talk about? Sure, you talk about what’s going on now, what’s new, and future plans… but what do you really enjoy doing?

Laughing and reminiscing on pleasurable (or extremely miserable) memories you have shared together.

This trip still would have been enjoyable and an eye-opening experience if we went individually, but what really makes it special is that we did it together. We had similar discomforts (rain, wind, storms, exhaustion etc), joys (pretty views, nice rides, beautiful sunsets), conversations, thrills… etc. It is a memory we can always rely on to reaffirm our friendship (if this were ever called into question).

Meditation

Life is full of learning, growing, and becoming the person you want to be. But experiences are never fully absorbed or understood, until we can meditate on the experiences we have had. Adventures and travels like this one can help you discover and dig deep on the inner desires and passions one holds.

Most religions teach a form of inner peace… prayer, meditation, etc. Some people consider motorcycling a religion (we don’t), but I feel that a similar inner peace can be found when on the open road. Enjoying the open nature, hearing and feeling the consistent vibrations of the motor below, seeing everything and seeing nothing, and focusing your thoughts within. Being in this state of mind for long durations can lead to a lot of self-discovery and personal philosophies.

It’s almost as if the slow vibrations of the bike slows the rhythm of your brainwaves (perhaps the alpha-state to all you brainiacs) and the clear thoughts that follow allow you to ride through the day, hours on end, without much clutter in the mind.

I’m sure it also helped that during the trip we were dealing with the clutter of work, the dramas of life and relationships, and the daily tasks we are accustomed to doing. We just sat back, take in the view and let our minds go where they wanted.

We suggest you do the same.